10 things I know after 10 years of marriage



Last Friday my husband and I celebrated our 10 year wedding anniversary.  My Mum and Dad looked after the kids for us and we had a fun evening out!  We treated ourselves to dinner at Jamie’s Italian and had plenty of laughs at Kitty Flanagan’s show.  It was so much fun.  I definitely think we should do that kind of thing more often.  With little ones it is sometimes hard to make each other a priority, but when we do make the time to I am always happy that we did. 

I’ve been thinking about how we’ve been together for so long now!  16 years together, and 10 years of marriage.  Here are ten things I know after 10 years of marriage:
  1. It is possible to love someone more than you thought you ever could.  When we got married, I didn’t think it could be possible to love anyone more than him, I didn’t think it was possible for my heart to grow anymore.  But, I was wrong! 
  2.  It is the little things that matter.  The little things can and should be celebrated.  Other little things can quickly turn into big things if you don’t address them straight away.  A good rule we made when we moved in together was to be upfront and talk about stuff if it was annoying us - straight away.  I think that served us well and stopped little things turning into big things. 
  3. We think we know each other pretty well, but even after all this time, we are still finding out new things about each other.
  4. Love evolves over time.  It is not better or worse, just different and reflects the life stage you are at at the time.
  5.  I like having a shared history with someone.  Someone who has been through what I’ve been through, someone to reminisce with, laugh with, have secrets with.
  6. We are fundamentally the same people now as we were back then, just a little more wrinkly and grey!
  7. I will never get tired of looking at those beautiful blue eyes of his.
  8. Together we balance each other perfectly.  With each other, we are better versions of ourselves.
  9. We have created something truly special in our little family.  A home so filled with love that it makes me so proud I could almost cry (and sometimes do…. Well probably more than sometimes!)
  10. I chose him all those years ago, and I still choose him now. 


 
And because ten isn’t enough - a bonus couple:  


Marriage is not a 50/50 proposition, as many of you think. I believe that this perception is hurting many families. Here is why.
When we feel we are doing our half of the work, we automatically feel slighted because we don’t feel our mate is doing his or her fair share. So we pout, fuss, or even go on strike. This is so silly.
Marriage is a 100%/100% proposition; Each person giving their all to the family. When you do all that you can, you have done your best. 
(http://www.flylady.net/d/br/2012/06/29/changing-your-attitude/)

So, what have you learned from being with your significant other?

I am excited for what the next ten years hold for my Husband and I. 

Until next time,

E xx

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